Premarital Musings: Wedding Stress + Taking Breaks

Aside from the Mason Jar Candle DIY I posted a couple of weeks ago, it's been almost a month since I've done a post even remotely wedding-themed.  There is a reason, my friends, for this hiatus.  See, there's this thing that everyone warns you about, called "wedding planning stress."  But since I'm soooo realistic and together and stuff, and because our wedding is just soooo laid back, I assured all of my married friends and family that I simply didn't need to worry about that.  Yep.

Robbie and I had always planned to elope, and then maybe have a little get-together at a bar or something.  Once we got engaged, however, the designer in me just couldn't fathom the thought of not designing the invitations, programs, decor, food, dress, etc.  I mean, how could I possibly get married without hand making 400 washi tape drink stirrers???  So we decided we'd just do it.  We'd have a real wedding.

Well, guess what?  No matter how much I promised myself that things wouldn't get out of hand, they kind of did.  When you're self-employed and you have to work a lot, and your fiance is on the road for weeks at a time, and you have a sick doggy, taking on another time-and-energy-consuming gig (i.e. planning a wedding) can be quite the shock.  Super casual wedding or otherwise, it can make you a little crazy, which in turn can make your partner a little crazy.  Maybe this wouldn't be the case if I had fancy things like wedding planners or rich relatives handing me their platinum credit cards, but alas, wedding planning stress got me.  Good.  Lesson learned. 

And hence, I come to the reason for which, until now, there haven't been any wedding themed posts. We took a major step back, and stopped planning - completely - for a while.  This doesn't mean we spent the last few weeks sitting on the beach drinking strawberry margaritas and staring aimlessly at puffy clouds.  Things have still been nonstop chaos.  But we took a wedding planning breather.  Yes, we are aware of the fact that our wedding is in one month.  And regardless of the fact that my wedding 'to do' list now contains tasks that most people have done six months in advance - or the fact that in 48 hours, my fiance leaves town with the band until 4 days before the wedding - I'm feeling much better about the whole thing.  This is about us being in love, after all.  And 400 handmade washi tape drink stirrers aren't going to make or break that.

For those of you recently engaged or planning a wedding in the near future, let me stand on my soap box and shout out the very advice that I so confidently rejected...  Breathe.  This stuff doesn't matter.  Truly.  You're in LOVE.  It's about you and your partner, period.  Print this out and tape it to your bathroom mirror.  Write it on a cute post-it and slap it on your computer.  Or on your forehead.  Whatever works.  Just do your best not to be the overachieving, wedding workaholic that I was.  Instead, close your eyes and kiss your future husband or wife, and think about the amazing journey you're about to take together.  And I don't mean the wedding.  I mean life.  Crap and all.

How was your weekend?  What did everyone do?  I think this may have been the first weekend since I started Bubby and Bean that I chose to take a break and not post.  We had a crazy few days, between Bubby dog having yet another major seizure (we switched to a med called Keppra; cross your fingers!), trying to function on very little sleep, and preparing for Robbie to leave. It didn't feel like a weekend, but maybe that's a good thing in terms of Monday feeling less Monday-ish?

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